With the end of the year rapidly approaching, everyone’s talking about 2021 and what it will bring. You might already be thinking about what you want to achieve in the future.
December is the time of year when people start coming up with New Year’s resolutions like “I am going to lose 15 pounds” or “I am going to save X amount of money.” And usually, people give up on their resolutions or forget about them halfway through January. Around 80 percent of people do not stick to them.
So, why do New Year’s resolutions fail?
Let’s start by thinking about what a resolution is. Essentially, a resolution is a statement of intention to make a change. But usually, the intention is not backed by a long-term strategy. Losing weight and saving money (the two examples I mentioned earlier) are not goals that can be achieved in a couple of days or weeks.
To make big improvements, you need 3 P’s: patience, purpose, and planning. I talk about each one in detail below.
With New Year’s resolutions or any long-term goals, people often get discouraged because they simply are not being patient with themselves.
I’m guilty of it, too. I recently started a new workout and nutrition plan. The first 4 weeks were difficult because I felt discouraged when I wasn’t seeing any results. Now that I’m 7 weeks in, I’m starting to see more progress. I’m so happy I didn’t give up in the beginning because the results I’m seeing now are 100 percent worth the effort.
Lifestyle changes are not meant to be short-term, one-and-done endeavors. When you’re making improvements of any kind, it’s important to be patient with yourself. Self-doubt is an obstacle that will stop you in your tracks if you allow it to.
When you’re trying to achieve a goal, do not let fear of failure or self-doubt get in the way. Instead, believe in yourself, be kind to yourself, and be patient with yourself. The results might not provide instant gratification, but they will be worth it in the end. So, don’t give up!
If you’re trying to make a big lifestyle change, you really have to want it. I’m not saying that to discourage you or invalidate your reasons for wanting to achieve a certain goal.
But if you’re trying to make a change for a superficial reason, you won’t get very far. To make your resolution last, your heart has to be in it.
Think about your New Year’s resolution for 2021. To identify the purpose behind it, here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Why is it something that you want to achieve?
- Is it something that you want to do for yourself, or is it to please someone else?
- Will it make you happier?
- Will it improve your quality of life?
- Will it have a positive impact on your future?
Once you’ve answered those questions, you should have a good idea of whether your resolution is something you should pursue.
Goal-setting and planning go hand in hand. You will be much more likely to achieve your goals if you have a plan. Habit trackers are a good way to hold yourself accountable, and they provide a visual representation of your progress to motivate you.
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Good luck, and I hope you slay your goals in 2021!
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