No significant other? No problem! Try one of these self-date ideas anytime you feel lonely or want to treat yourself.
I’ll be honest—I’ve never been a big fan of Valentine’s Day. I guess it’s because I haven’t ever had an amazing sweep-you-off-your-feet Valentine’s Day experience. (Maybe one day my time will come!)
I recognize that it can be special and romantic for couples who are in love, so I’m not a V-Day hater. However, I do think it can be a lonely time of year for singles because you’re constantly bombarded with reminders of how happy and in love everyone else is. (And that might not even be true—you don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes.)
This year, I will be spending Valentine’s Day alone. I’m not interested in dating right now. And TBH, I’d rather lay on the couch in my comfy clothes instead of putting on a tight dress and heels to go out. I love dressing up every once in a while, but I admittedly have become much lazier appearance-wise after college. (If my legs aren’t going to see the light of day, I’m NOT shaving them.)
This year, I’m dedicating Valentine’s Day to self-love.
I felt inspired to write this post because I’ve realized that I don’t need a man to have a grand ol’ time on Valentine’s Day. I was social throughout college, but I’ve spent more time alone since then. Now, I cherish my “me time” more than ever.
Don’t let a lack of a significant other get you down this season. Instead, try one of these self-date ideas!Single on Valentine's Day? Take yourself out. Self-dates are SO underrated.
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Here are 25 self-date ideas for single ladies:
1. Attend a concert.
Music events get me more excited than anything else. I’ve gone to several concerts and music festivals solo. It might sound crazy at first, but I think it’s just as fun. I’ve always made like-minded friends at the music events I attended by myself.
Don’t do anything that will send your anxiety through the roof, but attending a concert solo is a great way to get out of your comfort zone if you’re usually more introverted. I bet you’ll have a blast!
2. Eat lunch by yourself at your favorite restaurant. (Or get takeout!)
There’s no rule that says you have to be on a date to eat at your favorite restaurant. Just go by yourself!
And if you feel uncomfortable with the idea of eating at a restaurant alone, you could also get takeout. That way, you could enjoy your food in the comfort of your home.
3. Unplug from your phone and allow yourself to do something creative.
Sometimes, it’s best to get away from technology and social media. If you feel sad from looking at all the pictures of couples on Instagram, log off from your devices. Dedicate a few hours to a creative project you’ve been wanting to work on. It will take your mind away from the clutter of the digital world and the reminders of how “in love” everyone else is.
4. Go to a wine tasting event, or pick up your favorite bottle and stay in.
If you love wine, your favorite bottle can be your V-Day date. Texting your ex is ABSOLUTELY NOT ALLOWED!This Valentine's Day, texting your ex is ABSOLUTELY NOT ALLOWED!
5. Take a fitness class you’ve never tried before.
I always feel empowered after a good workout. Fitness classes will get your heart pumping!
Some fitness self-date ideas:
- Pole fitness (I’ve always wanted to try this one!)
6. Take a day trip somewhere.
When I feel sad, I just want to get away. If you feel stuck in the same old routine, you probably just need a change of pace. A day trip can seriously lift your mood!
7. …or book a flight to somewhere far away.
This is one of the more adventurous self-date ideas on the list. I’m a firm believer that traveling heals the soul. If you’ve been wanting to take a cross-country or international trip, but you’ve been putting it off, I’m giving you permission now—book that flight, girl! You’ll only regret the trips you don’t take.
8. Explore the city.
Cities are such interesting places to explore. They’re filled with diversity of people, cultures, and things to do. Whether you visit the city you live in, one that’s close by, or one far away, there will always be something new to see.
You should plan your visit to the city in advance so you know where you want to explore and which areas you should avoid. Cities can be unsafe, so make sure you are aware of your surroundings.
To me, there’s something so romantic and exciting about wandering around the city as a single woman. So many opportunities. So many possibilities.
9. Go for a walk down the beach.
I grew up by the beach. I’ve spent many days ambling down the coast, contemplating life. Beach walks can be very rewarding, low-key self-dates. Great if you’re in the mood to do something chill.
10. Have a soul date at your favorite coffee shop.
Bring your laptop or a good book to your favorite coffee joint. Order your favorite drink and a snack. Hours will fly by when you’re relaxed and enjoying your time away from the rest of the world.
11. Visit a bookstore and treat yourself to a new read.
If you love reading, the bookstore is probably your favorite place anyway—so just take yourself right on over there and pick out a new book to read!!!
12. Create care packages for the homeless.
This is a great way to give back to those in need. You will make someone else’s day, and you’ll feel more fulfilled in your own life. Look up local organizations that help the homeless in your area, and ask them if there’s a way you can help.
13. Take yourself to the movies.
Pretty much every guy I’ve dated has never wanted to see the same movies as me. That’s more of a reason to go solo! (Who wants to share their popcorn and candy, anyway?)
14. Go thrifting.
Thrift shopping is exciting because you never know what you’ll find. If your wardrobe needs an update, try looking around some thrift stores for some budget-friendly pieces to add to your closet.
15. Get your nails done.
I always feel happier after I get my nails done. It’s one of my favorite self-date ideas!
16. Have a mini selfie photoshoot.
Feeling yourself? Have a mini photoshoot and get some cute Instagram pics!
Here is an AMAZING and super affordable bendable selfie tripod with a Bluetooth remote that will help you take your Instagram game to the next level. It’s compatible with phones and cameras.
I take it wherever I go so I can get the best angles for my photos without the help of another person!
17. Cook yourself a meal at home.
There’s nothing like a home cooked meal! Cooking for yourself is a great way to enjoy quality time with yourself. Who doesn’t love food?
18. Sign up for a cooking class.
If you want to up your kitchen game, consider signing up for a cooking class. Usually, they will include a full meal and a glass of wine in the cost of the class. 😉 Afterwards, you can impress your friends with your new pro chef skills!
19. Take a flower arranging class.
I love this idea for Valentine’s Day because you will learn how to create beautiful bouquets and flower arrangements to decorate your home or give as gifts. You don’t need a man to buy you flowers! Instead, learn how to arrange your own. 🙂
20. Attend a wine and paint class.
This combines two things I love (wine and art) into one event. I can’t ask for anything more.
21. Binge watch The Bachelor.
That show is so bad that it makes me feel better about my own love life. I’m definitely addicted!
22. Plan a self-care date.
Everyone needs a mental health day every once in a while. Take a whole day off and plan self-care activities that you will enjoy. Try to take care of all your responsibilities in advance so you won’t have anything to worry about on your mental health day.
If you simply need a break from everything that’s going on, a self-care date is the way to go.
23. Make a vision board.
A vision board is a visual representation of what you imagine your dream life to look like. It includes things you want to be, have, and do.
Designing a vision board is fun. It will help you envision and manifest your future. Search for some inspiration on Pinterest, and then get to creating!
24. Take an hour long bath.
Time to get your bath bombs, face masks, and relaxing tunes ready! A long bath will help you unwind after a long day. You can turn it into a little self-date by planning to have snacks, wine, and your favorite self-care products at the ready.
25. Just snuggle with your favorite stuffed animal and sleep.
Whenever I’m stressed, it’s usually because I haven’t slept. Sleep is a basic, yet powerful form of self-care. I feel so much better after waking up from a long nap. (Yes, I still have all my stuffed animals from when I was younger. Yes, I still sleep with them in the bed with me. I really am a kid at heart!)
Because sleep is so crucial for good health and wellness, I decided to include it on this list. After all, I’m naturally exhausted from being an adult. When I’m tired, I’d choose the opportunity to sleep over any date!
Thanks for reading!
I hope you liked these self-date ideas. Let me know what you end up doing for Valentine’s Day in the comments below. I’d love to hear about your experience!
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