So, why is it important to balance self-love with personal growth? Personal growth is awesome, and I highly encourage it (which you probably know if you’ve been reading this blog lately).
However, when it comes to self-improvement and making big lifestyle changes, it’s easy for our inner critics to get in our way. I struggle a lot with perfectionism, and there have been times in my life when negative self-talk has dictated my feelings and actions. That is not OK!
When we strive to achieve personal growth, it’s crucial to put more effort into loving ourselves. Change is scary, and it’s easy to doubt ourselves in the midst of disruption. Self-love helps us conquer fear of change, and it silences the self-doubt that holds us back from making progress.
I wanted to write this post to say a few things, but mainly this: don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s great that you want to improve, but you are worthy of love and happiness just the way you are.
That being said, here are ways you can balance self-love and personal growth:
Improve yourself out of self-love, not resentment.
The source of your personal growth should be the desire for the very best for yourself. You should want to improve because you love yourself and want to be better, not because you hate your current self. If you make changes out of love, you will be less likely to hear the negative self-talk that might float through your head at times.
Be encouraging instead of putting yourself down.
Speaking of negative self-talk, it’s super important to silence it and replace it with positive affirmations. This goes back to the concept of practicing self-love instead of self-hate. When you allow negative thoughts to control you, you are likely to feel burned out and unmotivated.
However, if you think to yourself with a more reassuring tone, you will feel positive emotions instead of negative ones. Personal growth is about self-love, and encouragement will help with it.
Allow yourself to fail sometimes, and learn from your mistakes.
NO ONE is perfect. It’s impossible for anyone to be 100% perfect all the time. If you’re like me, you might want to beat yourself up when you fail. But what you need to realize is that even the kindest, most successful, happiest people in the world screw up sometimes. It’s completely OK to fail!
The difference between people who grow and people who don’t is whether they learn from their mistakes or not. When you mess up, it’s important to take a step back and reflect on the situation to figure out what you could have done better. If you do that, you didn’t even really fail. You just learned from a mistake, and now you know not to do the same thing again.
Self-care is a form of self-love, and it’s important to incorporate it into your self-improvement plan. Personal growth should not come at the expense of your mental and physical wellbeing. You should put self-care first.
Don’t know how to get started with self-care? Here are some ideas:
- 60 self-care ideas to incorporate into your everyday life
- 30 fall self-care ideas to keep you sane this season
- 30 ways to practice self-care in under 30 minutes
Be disciplined, but not cruel.
Personal growth usually requires you to have discipline, form good habits, and adhere to routines. But having discipline and being cruel to yourself are not the same thing at all. Prioritize your mental and physical health above everything.
Here’s a scenario: you’re trying to eat healthier, and you’ve been really good about it all week. Friday rolls around, and your friends want to go to the Cheesecake Factory for dessert. You are REALLY craving this cheesecake. In this case, you shouldn’t pass up the opportunity to enjoy dessert and socialize with your gal pals. Even though you’re in the process of making a lifestyle change, it’s OK to make an exception every once in a while. Consistency is key, but you should also reward your hard work!
When it comes to making decisions like this, you should trust your gut. Do what makes you happy!
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